Brutal Truth is a Beautiful Thing Interview with Megan

I have started a little interview process called  "Brutal Truth is a Beautiful Thing."
I'm doing this because I love to get to know the "real" people behind their blogs. I think so many of us are afraid to tell the truth whatever it may be. We want others to like us. We want others to read our blog. We don't want to scare anyone away.

Me included!! 



You can read my interview anytime {HERE}
 

Today I am interviewing Megan from What Wegan Did Next
 
We are going to do the format slightly differently today because I thought a little back round on this particular blogger might be very interesting.
 
 I am fairly familiar with the gay and lesbian community but was completely naive to the idea of "lipstick lesbians" so I asked Megan to elaborate a little for us. 
I am so pleased with her brutally honest interview and biography. Thank you Megan!!


Hello! It’s Megan from What Wegan Did Next here. 

We are very pleased to be guest blogging for the lovely Hanna and so pleased she asked us to tell you all a little about ourselves + answering some brutally honest questions.

Our blog details the life of ‘Wegan’, AKA Megan and Whitney. We are a lipstick lesbian couple that have been doing long distance for over 3 years! The majority of our relationship has been spent with Whitney living in Hawaii, and Megan in the UK. Megan is British and 24 years old, and Whitney is American and 23 years old. So I bet you’re wondering how Wegan came about! This is a very fast run through so hold on tight...

We first met online for a few years (thank you Myspace & Facebook) and met in person when Whitney came over to the UK to study abroad in September 2008. We had never admitted to liking each other online, but two weeks later on 5th October 2008 we were officially girlfriend & girlfriend.


 For the next few months we saw each other in Cardiff & London (with a trip to Paris as well) until it was time for Whit to sadly move back to Hawaii to finish her degree. We have been doing LONG distance ever since.
Video of our younger days:



We both visited each other’s countries many times over the years. (How lucky??) Megan moved out to Hawaii in March 2011 until Whitney graduated in May 2011.


Megan went down on one knee and proposed to Whitney on their favourite beach in Hawaii (click here to read all). They had planned to return to the UK together, however Whitney's visa was sadly unsuccessful. Whitney is now in South Carolina and we are in the process of appealing the decision and moving onto Plan B- so watch this space!

Megan just got back from spending two months visiting Whitney in South Carolina.
2012 will FINALLY be the year for Wegan when we will hopefully get Whitney over to the UK and truly begin our lives.


So now that you know a bit about our relationship, we thought we’d explain to those of you who may not know what on earth we’re on about when we call ourselves ‘lipstick lesbians’. This refers to feminine lesbians, another term is ‘femmes’, i.e Whitney & I evidently don’t look like the stereotypical lesbian and we love all things girlie- make up, clothes, shoes etc. Though of course, looking LIKE a lesbian is fine, nothing against that if that's who you are. (Typically short hair, no make up, baggy jeans and a tshirt blah blah). You can spot them straight away. Of course there’s also those who are a mix of femme & dykey, so slightly easier to spot. Both of us just prefer the feminine traits to women. & we’ve always known we’re gay fyi.
The problem with being femme is that we suffer from ‘femme invisibility’. We mainly slip under the radar, from both straight & gay people. I used to go out gay clubbing twice a week whilst at University. The majority of my friends were gay males. It was very hard for me to ever find a lady when out because 1) I was most likely assumed to be straight/ fag hag 2) I assumed the majority of pretty ladies in the club were straight/ fag hags. Also there tends to be the coupling of femmes with butch lesbians, so it’s more rare to see femme/femmes. Looking femme has its disadvantages, not only in making it hard to finding a girlfriend (especially if you like fellow femmes). However, you also get looked at by lesbians like you shouldn't be there, and then straights don't believe that you are gay (especially guys of course). So you're left wondering, where exactly do I belong and where can I find others like me. It does have its advantages, you can more easily escape homophobia and any form of hate crime by not being able to be singled out as a gay.
But the question remains, how do we tackle femme invisibility? Earlier this year we launched a campaign entitled 'Real Life Lesbians' (http://whatwegandidnext.blogspot.com/p/real-life-lesbians.html) to try and tackle general lack of visibility and lesbian role models.
Then we decided to try raise the visibility of feminine lesbians by laughing ‘Femme Visibility’ (http://whatwegandidnext.blogspot.com/p/femme-visibility.html) 
 Celebrity wise there aren’t many feminine lesbians- we have Portia De Rossi, Chely Wright and Amber Heard.  But that’s about it. (Lindsay Lohan doesn't really count does she? & Megan Fox?)

Chely Wright & wife

 Amber Heard

 Portia De Rossi with wife Ellen 


We hope that by introducing you to us and our lives, we have helped raise the visibility of lipstick lesbians and that we live our lives and love like anybody else. 

We hope that you stop by our blog and say hello!








Brutal Truth is a Beautiful Thing Interview

Today's Interview: Megan of Wegan
(Megan is the one in the glasses)


What's your greatest Weakness?

It would have to be my lack of confidence and self belief. I clearly don’t come across like that in pictures, or in person, but I guess I fear people seeing through my confident persona.


What's your greatest strength?

I find this hard to answer as I’m never very good at talking about myself/ bigging myself up (see above answer haha). I guess I’m very strong willed and it’s get me through a lot. I can be rather logical and love finding solutions to problems.

What has emotionally crippled you in your lifetime?

The most major impact upon me emotionally (mentally & physically) is my disability to my left hand. It’s not something I was born with, and coming to terms with it plus the fact it’s a result of medical negligence is very hard still. To read all about it, click here 

What has elated you with joy in your lifetime? 

Meeting Whitney, getting to experience Paris (twice) and Hawaii (five times) with her. We’ve truly had the most amazing experiences and some that many couples won’t even experience in their life time. Also the day that we got engaged in Hawaii.

Have much have you evolved since your teenage years? Are you a similar person?

Ooh I’ve changed a lot, I know I’m still quite young at 24 but definitely come a long way from my teenage years. I was a lot more outgoing when younger but also, of course, more immature. I feel that I’m coming into my own as a woman.

What's something you don't want to tell us about?

It would be my disability, it’s not something I ever really talk about and I have only ever mentioned it once on my blog. I hide it in all of my photos and do well at hiding it in person. It takes a long time for people to realise it, and not many people know the true effects it has on me.

When the world is crashing down on you, where do you go?


Firstly to my fiancĂ©, we are best friends and share everything. I tell my sister quite a lot too. I have always found the internet as a place to go from a young age. Though I don’t use our blog to talk about a lot of things as find it hard to put those sides of me/us out there. As I’m sure a lot of us don’t.


Do you have any goals? What are they?

Career wise I’m currently a bit confused. I have a degree in Sociology and Criminology, and a Masters in Equality & Diversity. I hope to make a change to equality in my life time, particularly gay rights. I love research and social media, so we’ll see where I end up.

My other goals involve getting Whitney to the UK, having our own place, getting married & having children. I cannot wait for our life to properly begin.


Can you honestly say you love what you do?

Well at the moment all I’m doing is either visiting Whitney (have spent half a year in the USA this year), searching for jobs and blogging. So yes I guess haha. Though of course I’d rather have a job already!!

Who has been the single most influential person in your lifetime thus far?

Whitney- she’s opened up my eyes, heart and mind in many ways through her unconditional love, travelling and American ways haha. She influences me to be a better person, and believes in me more than I do.

Honestly, we are all striving for something, what is your greatest goal in life? I'm not talking about money!
Again it would be my life with Whitney and knowing I made some change in the world, no matter how big or small it is.
Name your most defining moment!!!
This moment would have to be getting down on one knee and proposing to Whitney. I’m very good at writing the way I feel, but saying it is a lot harder. Whitney most likely never thought I’d be able to utter such words, but I sure did on 17th May 2011. I’ll never forget the way that she cried from happiness.

What is your greatest wish right here and now?
That Whitney & I were together already. I hate how hard it is to get Whitney to the UK. People can’t believe how long it takes and how much you have to do for immigration.We are great when we are together 24/7 and never get sick of one another. We’ve been doing long distance for over three years, and let me tell you. It’s hard. We had hoped it would be over earlier this year, so have to keep struggling with the miles between us quite frankly- sucks! We know that 2012 will be the year for us to be finally living together. Can it hurry up please? Also we don’t get to celebrate Christmas or New Years together this year which makes us sad. We can’t wait to fully celebrate in the festivities in the years to come. 


I want thank Megan and Whitney from the bottom of my heart for sharing their love story on my blog. I have MANY friends and family members in the gay and lesbian community. 


I also STRONGLY believe in rights and equality for all beings on this planet. Fear is the number one reason for prejudice and I promise you there is NOTHING to be afraid of. I have so many gay Friends who would give an arm and a leg in a second if I needed it. Please give them a chance. You might just surprise yourself! 


If you do not agree with their lifestyle please keep it to yourself and do not leave a nasty comment. People are entitled to live their lives any way they choose. Any negative comments will be deleted immediately. 


I think Megan and Whitney are gorgeous, and adorable and have a beautiful story!!!! 
Please go check out their blog {HERE}

8 comments:

Wegan said...

Aww thank you SOOO much for sharing our story on here Hanna! Your support is SO sweet & it means a lot :)

M x

Laura'sRollingPin said...

So nice of them to open up and share their story and lives with us.
I hope things work out and they can finally be together!

Sheila said...

Hanna, I love your interviews! What a wonderful way to get to know some amazing bloggies out there!

I very much enjoyed learning about Wegan .. from them meeting, to having a long-distance relationship (which can be a killer especially when one is trying to get a Visa) .. to now trying to live in the same spot. I'm sure many of us have no idea as to how difficult it might be to 'fit in' to society as well and I can only imagine how hard it must be to fight for equal rights. This couple is very inspiring & I am wishing them all the best!!

Jen said...

Loved this interview! Their honesty really warmed my heart. I'm hopping over to their blog now!

Laura and Sarah said...

Aww this is such a lovely interview with the wonderful Wegan!! You girls are an inspiration :)

Laura xo

Lindsay said...

What an inspiring story. Thanks for having them share Hanna!!!

Tami Marie said...

Megan and Whitney are so inspiring. They are amazing and wonderful ladies to know. I have been following there blog for some time now and it's been an honour getting to know them

I wish them the best of luck in the future.

Tami

Lorrie said...

What beautiful people! I wish them only the best and hope they can be together soon!

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