Desicions........Desicions!!!



Hmmmmmmm................................




 
Well folks, once again I find myself at a crossroads!
 
Let's just get one thing clear right away....no I am not yet pregnant!!!!




 
My husband asked Little Milton very casually in the car the other day if he wanted a baby brother or sister........WHOA!!!!!
 
 
Little Milton immediately responded, "sister" and then after he thought about it for a moment, he said "brother"


 


 
Then yesterday we all playing in his room and he looked at me and in a questioning voice said over and over again,
 
Another Baby?
Another Baby?
Another Baby?
 
I replied, Do you want mama to have another baby Milton? and he said "OKAY!!"
 


 
My husband and I have always wanted a family..........probably on the bigger side. We haven't talked extensively about this but all of a sudden it just seems "RIGHT"

 
 
Well, it seems right to me at least. My only reservation is money. We are in dire straights financially but my children are my everything and I would love to grow our family. On the other hand I feel like it is a little irresponsible on my end as we can barley make it in the world as a family of four. 



 
Sooooooo......................I have butterfly's in my stomach about the possibility of another baby. I feel excited, giddy, like a little kid on Christmas but realistically I know we are in for A LOT more stress that we even know. But, in my heart I think there might be one more little soul out there waiting for us.



My Birth Necklace!! 
My wonderful, fantastic, romantic husband surprised me with the ruby when my son was born and then surprised me again with the emerald when my daughter was born. 


 
 
I know once we start trying I will be pregnant immediately. I got pregnant with Milton the first time we ever tried and Ginger was a very happy surprise. So I'm not worried about that. 



And I  have a marathon or so to run before we can make it a reality but the wheels are in motion......I think??? YIKES!!! I'm scared. Mom's of 3, got any recommendations? Also take into account that my first 2 are only 14 month apart and we don't want his one left behind so this would be a fairly quick decision.
 
 
 
What do you think?????
I'm dying to hear your opinion!!! 
 
 

Dress: {MOD CLOTH} only $44 dollars. a total steel! 
Shoes: Bought in Italy, brand is Franco Barbieri
Bracelet's: My aunt brought from India


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31 comments:

Elisha(: said...

Congrats? Lol (: p.s. you look pretty!!

Heather :: AFD Jewelry :: said...

No advice from me, but I wanted to say good luck with your decision! PS - you look fabulous!!

CaseyWiegand said...

sweet friend i am all about big families!!!!

Liesl said...

First, you look beautiful in yellow and I simply love that dress...such a lovely look! Pretty necklace too!

Second, awwww, how cute about Milton wanting a little sister...no, wait...brother...hehe....either way, I'm sure when the time is right that will happen, and I think you are a wonderful mother for looking out for what is best all around first!

Hope you all have a Wonderful Weekend! :)

Christy said...

Do it!! (Hehe).

I've been told if we wait until we are financially where we want to be, we will spend life waiting. Good luck with your decisions. :)

Jessie K said...

We just had our third and WE WERE NOT FINANCIALLY READY!!!!! But then again, I don't think most people are in this economic climate! However, a stroke of "fortune" occurred and hubby is off in ND making our fortune! lol It possibly the worst situation one could find one's self in while still horribly in love with one's spouse and said spouse is still alive and not in the military.

Advice? You'll know when you're ready. A third really does add quite a bit to a household. It kinda depends on what you can handle. If you're really easy going and can easily adapt, then by all means, after that marathon is over, hop in bed! :D I honestly don't think waiting a little longer to have the third will mean he/she will be left behind. In fact I think it means you'll be able to have more time with the older two (especially the second who may end up feeling shorted in the parent attention department) before the craziness of having three children begins! My second is having a really hard time adjusting, that's why I mention that.

toi said...

you are looking great :). I would try if I were feeling the desire for another baby :)

Melanie Dohojda said...

I think that if you are seriously considering it, then you are ready. I agree with Christy, if you are waiting for the perfect time, that time will never come. I also understand worrying about the financial part of it. But since you have a boy and girl, you have hand me downs no matter what you have.

I would say take the time to think it over a little more while waiting to run your marathon, and then go for it afterwards if that is what you have chosen, although I think you have already made up your mind :)

Cat J B said...

Ooh, exciting! Do it do it do it!

Hanna said...

love the yellow dress! and as for what i think, i think that if you're thinking about it then that's your answer. the alternative is to wait until it's too late to find out if you regret not growing your family. there will never be a right time financially, especially at this point and i can tell from this post that you really want another baby! good luck! xo

Tricia said...

It seems that things will work themselves out financially if it's the right thing to do. I don't know that there is ever "the right time" financially for a child, but mentally, physically, and emotionally are the more important areas.

Susan Liberatore said...

Love you in yellow! Stunning.
And I say, there will always be a reason why the timing is not "right". So now is as right a time as any!! Go for it!! xo

stephanie said...

you look stunning in that yellow! and i say GO FOR IT!!!! you make the cutest babies ever. then again i only have one child so maybe i'm not the best person to take advice from ; )

{Adventuresindinner} said...

Zero advice just best wishes and I know you'll choose what's best for your family.

tiarenie said...

If its only money holding you back then I would say go for it! God will provide. :) love your necklace!

Char said...

While I'm just starting my motherhood journey, I must agree with some of the previous comments. I believe if you wait to be financially ready, you will never be ready. BUT, GREAT props to you for thinking and trying to be prepared. Everyone needs that in their life :) Also, agree that I think the 3rd won't be left behind if he/she is a little more than 14 months apart from Ginger. Maybe use this time to prepare yourselves and enjoy your first two babies while they are this age. You will know when it's right. Heck, after doing a marathon you can do ANYTHING :) And BTW, you are ROCKIN' the yellow dress :)

Christi Lynn said...

how exciting! go for it! and you are to beautiful. amazing dress.

Brandy Jane Mabel said...

Going from 2 to 3 was harder than 1 to 2.. With that being said I am so glad we went for #3! When my husband and I were discussing the possibility of a 3rd he just looked at me and said, "we will never regret having another child, but we might regret not having another." He was so right! I love my family of 5 :)

Joanna said...

We have 3 under 3 right now, and we love it. However, I'm a stay at home mom and I struggle every day just to keep up with the basics. Hygiene, food, and laundry are a full time job by themselves.

I would definitely make sure that you feel fully confident with what you are handling now before adding another little one. A stressed mama isn't a good thing, so make sure you have some extra support if you decide to go for it. Don't worry about the finances though, they work themselves out.

And you look gorgeous! I'd love you know where you find the time to style yourself so well!

m&msmommy said...

LOVE that dress! SO pretty!

And every time people ask when we are having a 3rd, I say, "Hmmm, not sure there will be a 3rd, because money doesn't grow on trees. Not sure when we'll be financially ready" and the typical response (which most of your readers have already said) is "If you wait until you're financially ready you'll never have another!!!" It's very true! :) I say all children need is love (well and food, clothing and shelter! ;) and love is free, so go for it!!!!! :) I;ll live vicariously through you and your pregnancy updates! :)

My Garden of Eden said...

I had three kids in 2 1/2 years!!! It's a blast. Busy but a blast!!! I just had my fourth. Do it! Money comes money goes their is never enough of it....we just stetch and make it work:)

SueAnn said...

Love the dress, shoes and the tattoo!! Good luck on your decision. If it is in your heart...then go for it. Love will make a way!
Hugs
SUeAnn

Tatiana said...

You look beautiful as always my friend.
And how exciting! I hope you go 60/40 with your heart and head. Mostly with the heart :-)
I'm excited to find out what you've decided!

Katie said...

Love the yellow dress!!! And I can't wait to hear what happens with this :) There never really is a perfect time for babies it seems, but it usually all works out :)

Kelly | Eat Yourself Skinny said...

LOVE that dress and I think you'd make an amazing mom of 3!! How exciting! That necklace is so sweet too :)

Jen@ADropintheBucket said...

LOVE the dress. And I'm not a mom of three (still pondering the decision to go with 3, like you are), but I would agree with previous commenters who say "when you know, you'll know" and there usually never is a perfect time.

Melynda said...

If we question whether to do anything, it would never get done!

We don't think we can, and then find ourselves in the middle of doing it quite well.

One will always find a way to make what they want, work out.

I'm just sayin.....

PS have a great run!

Donna said...

WOW! Can we have your husband talk to my husband? We have a 4 year old girl and I do want to have another child and he is ok with just her. We are big planners....especially financially. We didn't want to have 2 kids in preschool and then college at the same time. Good luck with it!

Lindsay said...

It will all happen in HIS time! You are such an amazing momma I have no doubt you will be JUST FINE :)

Rachel @ My Happily Ever After said...

Ok first of all, this dress is absolutely stunningly adorable on you. Love it!

Second, YES do it!! I can live vicariously through you until I talk my hubby into starting to try :).

curiouscovetous said...

Wow! Well hmm.. since you asked for my two cents... :) As you know, I don't have kids, but as a nanny and preschool teacher I will say first off that going from 2 to 3 is pretty intense. You're outnumbered!! I guess my concern would be how close together all of them are. I don't think waiting another little while leaves the 3rd behind at all. I guess the question I would ask myself is- how much is struggling financially going to matter to me? I am sure that no matter what you do you'll be fine, but is fine good enough? Will you be able to enjoy your babies is you are always stressed about money? Only you know that! You are a great mom and you will be no matter what :) Whatever you decide I will support you 110% and you know I will continue to love those babies! XOXO

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