Brutal Truth is a Beautiful Thing with Laura from Bits of Splendor

I have started a little interview process called  "Brutal Truth is a Beautiful Thing."
I'm doing this because I love to get to know the "real" people behind their blogs. I think so many of us are afraid to tell the truth whatever it may be. We want others to like us. We want others to read our blog. We don't want to scare anyone away.

Me included!! 

You can read my itnterview anytime {HERE}  
For the first year I never really shared a lot of personal information because I didn't think people wanted to hear it.I posted my recipes and a few cute pics of the kids and that's it. Well, I couldn't have been more wrong. Yes, people still want all the fabulous recipes and cute photos but they want to know me. I have gotten the biggest responses from my "on my heart" posts. People want to know you, what makes you you, the person you are. They want to know how you live your life. They don't want a bunch of  nonsense about how fancy your car is and perfect your life is. I think we all want to be able to relate to each other and NONE of us are perfect!!!
Today's Interview: Laura from Bits of Splendor

What's your greatest Weakness?
Insecurity. Sometimes I worry way too much about what people think of me, or will think of me. There have been times where I allowed it to keep me from doing things, or making certain decisions. But I am learning more and more to let go of that. To be me and to be confident in who that is. Not everyone is going to like me or approve of what I do or have to say, and that's OK! It's actually very freeing to come to that conclusion.

 What's your greatest strength?
Compassion. I love people. I love all kinds of people and I am genuinely interested in their lives. I especially have a heart for the hurting. Sometimes I'm overwhelmed with how much I *feel* for people. But that drives me to want to do whatever I can to help, or to offer love, or hope. Sometimes I feel like I can't do enough but I have to remember I can do something.
One of my favorite quotes....
"I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do. What I can do, I should do. And what I should do, by the grace of God, I will do"
Edward Everett Hale



What has emotionally crippled you in your lifetime? 

My most emotionally crippling moments were when we lost two of our babies Grace Ann at 20 weeks and Faith Marie at 23 weeks. 

What has elated you with joy in your lifetime?
Being married to the love of my life and the day I became a mother and every day since. I truly feel that being a mom is the greatest gift I've ever been given. I think happiness comes and goes depending on your circumstances. But Joy is deeper. It is constant. Being a mother, thought at times hard, is such a joy. 

How much have you evolved since your teenage years? Are you a similar person?
Oh my goodness. I have changed so much. I used to have a mouth on me. Constantly getting in trouble for it. I was never afraid to speak my mind and sometimes that hurt people.

I still have that mouth, but I've learned that words don't always need to be spoken, I don't always have to be heard, and that this mouth of mine is powerful. I can use it to build up, encourage, and speak life. That's what I hope to do. I think my mouth has become one of the biggest ways God uses me. The very thing I struggled in, has helped transform me. I'm still a work in progress. And always will be. I hope to always be changing and growing and moving forward.


What's something you don't want to tell us about?
To an extent I'm a pretty private person. I think certain things should be held sacred and close to your heart. There is a fine line with sharing too much and sharing too little. I want to be transparent and open. I want people to relate with me and my struggles and know they aren't alone. On the other hand, there are certain things I won't talk about in an open space. Maybe in a small cluster of trusted people, or just between friends, but certain things I think should be held close.


When the world is crashing down on you, where do you go?
To God for sure. If there is one thing I've learned it's that no one else has the answer and no one else has the control to change things. Prayer changes things.

Do you have any goals? What are they?
-To run in a marathon. My first goal would be a half marathon. 

-To have another baby. Our youngest, Mia is 15 months old. I think we will start talking about it when she is closer to two. For now I'm enjoying her as my baby, but can't wait to have another one. 

-To own a boutique one day. Filled with a mix of eclectic, vintage, modern, and handmade goods. In a small, trendy town, with a place for young kids to hang out while their parents shop. Good music, yummy treats and coffee too!

-For Project Hope to become a nation wide, non profit organization. That it would reach millions of families and mothers with the gift of Hope.

-To write a book

-To step into the ministry I know I'm called to alongside my husband. 


Can you honestly say you love what you do?
100%. I love being a stay at home mom. Being home with my kids is a joy and a blessing. I love to be here when my husband gets home from work. Making our house a home. I love it all.

On the other hand, I also love that my shop and blog have given me opportunities to channel my creativity and to also do what I can now, where I'm at, to encourage others and minister to women in a way I never thought I would be able to. It has helped me define who I am and where I want to go. Knowing that there are no limits except the ones I put on myself. I'm of the belief that you can be a mom and wife but also pursue your dreams and ministries.


Who has been the single most influential person in your lifetime thus far?
My husband. I was on a completely different path when I met him. He changed me. For the better.
He is the person I go to about everything. He thinks things through-- I talk things through. He helps me process. He keeps me balanced. He makes me a better person. Grounds me. Loves me well. Knows me best.

Honestly, we are all striving for something, what is your greatest goal in life? I'm not talking about money!
To make a difference in my community and in our world. To love, serve and most of all lead by example. So that I am raising my children to do the same. I want my children to pursue their dreams, to extend themselves beyond their comfort zones and to love others. And I know that the best teachers they will ever have is us--mom and dad. So my greatest goal is to raise children who are aware of the world around them with a compassion and passion to do something in it, that will change it.


Name your most defining moment!!!
When I was pregnant with our second child we went in for a ultrasound at 20 weeks to find out if it was a boy or girl. Instead we found out that we had lost the baby. No heart beat. Grace Ann had passed away a week or two before.
I was scheduled for an induction two days later. That morning I woke up with an incredibly heavy heart. I knew what I was going to have to face that day, but I didn't know how I would be able to. I remember sitting up in my bed. I didn't want to get out because I thought if I tried to stand in that moment, I would fall to my knees in despair. 
I started to cry out to God in prayer. For strength. For peace. For Grace to get through this day.
That very moment, I knew I had a choice to make. I could get out of bed, fall to my knees and never get up. I could allow this to defeat me.  Or I could get up and face this day with my head held high. Knowing I had God's grace to get me through and that I would get through it.
I chose to get up.

Thinking back on that day, I remember a calm and peace I had never felt before. I remember it overwhelming me just as I began to push, and I remember it consuming me as I held our daughter and said goodbye.

God's grace sustained me. I believe in that moment of decision, I was changed forever.


Are there people in your past that you wish you could make amends with?
Not really. I think people are in your past for a reason.  

What memory will be forever burned in your mind to the point where you can smell the room and feel the energy?
Ever since I was a little girl I have had an intense awareness and need to be in the moment. I can remember closing my eyes and saying "I'm glad it's right now, I'm glad it's right now." It was my way of living in those very moments. Right then. 

I think that ability has carried me through some of my most joyful and yet also hardest moments. When I had Grace Ann, I was on a lot of pain medication. I have snipits of memory. Of her. The room, the people. Most of it is a blur and I sort of resented that. 

So when we lost our second daughter Faith Marie after an emergency c-section at 23 weeks, I wanted to take in every single detail I could. After they wheeled me back into the recovery room,  I remember my mom telling me we had lost the baby and that it was a girl. They handed her to me. All wrapped up. She was perfect. I remember fighting through every other emotion and pain, just so I could hold on to these moments with her.

And I did. I studied every bit of her. I remember her. Those are memories I will cherish forever. 


 What movie and/or book speaks to you? 
The Bible. It is God's written word. It is relevant and fresh and new, no matter how many times I've read something. 

What is your greatest wish right here and now? 
I wish there was such a thing as a perfect balance. But I really don't believe there is. The roles we women have to play each day can be a lot. And sometimes it can be overwhelming, but I think we just have to pick out the things that are most important and focus most and best on those things. I wish I could do it all, but I know that I can't. And I'm finally ok with that.

Laura is a brand new friend of mine and I am so grateful to have met such a beautiful  soul. I already adore her and her blog. Thank you Laura so much for being part of the Brutal Truth Series and sharing your story!!! I am so honored to have featured you today!!!
You May read the entire series of "Brutal Truth"

 Interviews {HERE}


Brit said...

This is the first interview you've done that I read and WOW. Very refreshing :) Can't wait to read more.

Kenzie R. said...

These interviews are great! Such a good way to get to know the blogger behind the blog. Thanks for sharing!

Susan said...

Has been through so much for such a young gal. Beautiful family!

Char said...

Love this interview! And love her blog. I had to jump over to read all about her and her motivating and touching story. She was definitely put here on Earth to be a Mom and God has most definitely spoken true to her heart. Thanks for sharing Laura!

Amber said...

This was so beautiful. On the verge of tears right here <<<< Thank you for this. :)

Lindsay said...

What a gorgeous family! I have to check out her blog! LOVE this series of REALNESS :)

Melissa Bo said...

Great interview, and lovely photos!

Kate said...

Wow this is incredible - what a sweet person! I can tell this is going to be a heart-wrenching series already...

stephanie said...

I love laura she is such a sweetie!
and hanna. thank you for your comment on my blog today sweet friend. it made my day!!!!! i love you!!!

Ashley said...

LOVE Laura and her sweet heart. Could hardly read through all of it.
Thankyou so much for doing these features! Can't wait to read more :)

Laura@Splendor said...

thank you so much for having me sweet Hanna!

Marion said...

Wow. What an inspiring honest interview. I seriously paused several times while reading it to reflect on a few personal links.

Thank you both...
XO - Marion

Something White said...

Beautiful woman, from the inside and the outside!


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